Who is in Control – You or Your Fetish?

For most of my life, I have been extremely embarrassed about my fetish. From an early age, I have been struggling with my fetish on a daily basis and often saw it more as a curse, than a blessing. As much as I dreamed about sharing my fetish with another person, I was terrified by the thought of not being understood and being seen as weird and perverted. My fetish clearly had a huge control of my life.

This was the case until the day that I decided that enough was enough, and came out of the closet. This action started a change in my life and the way that I dealt with my fetish. I became more and more confident and was able to utilize the power the fetish gave me to make some much-needed changes in my life. By being active in the fetish community, online and in real life, I eventually came to terms with it and accepted that the fetish is a part of who I am and learned that it’s not something that I need to hide or be embarrassed about.

Today, my fetish only takes up a small part of myself, if you compare it to before I came out. It’s still there – but it’s no longer in control.

Please ask yourself the following questions OR even answer them in the comments below:

1.: Who is in control – you or your fetish?

2.: If your fetish is in control:

a.: What can/could you do – to be an active part of the fetish community?

b.: What is stopping you from taking action?